{This is the fifth in a recurring series which will explore the brutally complex concept of monogomy in increasingly outlandish scenarios. We hope these will be illuminating what-if scenarios, and that they will cultivate some intense philosophical discussions around what, if anything, really constitutes cheating.}
Is It Really Cheating If: 
You're traveling through Europe, and when you reach the South Coast of France, you find yourself walking along the stone beach in Nice late one night.
The clubs have just emptied when you make eyes with a native French vixen who doesn't turn away. She joins you for the rest of your walk as you don't speak French and she doesn't speak English. She also doesn't laugh when you tell her that although your fluency in French is poor, you do kiss that way.
The night ends with some mutual pawing and then her hands find their way into your pants for a manual release as the waves slap the beach and your eyes are closed and you're thinking about nothing at all.
By the time you fly back home to the States you barely recall the encounter, and since it was a foreign country and neither of you spoke the same language and you kept your eyes closed during the actual act:
Is this cheating?
-BDS
oui.
If your eyes were closed and you barely remember it, maybe it was a dream?
Of course.....
Anonymous - Damn.
Jlee - An excellent point, and if so, a very good dream and I should go sleepwalking more often.
Miss Ash - Of course. What about the different countries, languages, etc. Mitigating circumstances?
Cheating.
The whole dream thing reminds me of Young & the Restless like 15 years ago when Toria was married to Neil and she was hella sick and delusional and her brother-in-law (played by Shemar Moore - ggrrrrrrr) slept with her and the whole time she thought it was Neil.
Sorry, tangent there, but either way, cheating.
you guys know anyone with any concept of fidelity is just always going to say, "YES silly boys this IS CHEATING."
this is just a thinly veiled transition of $2 productions into porn literature.
i'm on to you.
Melissa - I was hoping nobody noticed that it was lifted from soap operas. Actually, I didn't know that, but I"m sure it happened and it's too bad it was cheating for them and us.
Julia - There's money in porn literature Julia. We're simply dipping our toes in the water to test the temperature. Ha. Just wait for the full-on, hard-core stuff in 2007.
wooo hoo!
You never said they went home to someone in the States. Details! Details! Assuming they did go back to their lives which involve another person, then YES, tis cheating. If they didn't, what a grand story to brag to the guys about!!
PS. It's SymplyAmused--blogger wouldn't let me sign in...wahhhhhh
Jlee - It is pretty damn exciting, eh?
Symplyamused - You gotta love blogger, right? And you have a great point because yes you are returning to someone in the States, so unfortunately cheating again.